It continues to amaze me how old negative memories from our childhood have such a tremendous impact on our psyche. It can stop and keep us stuck, frozen and paralyzed for a long time. People do function in their in their lives but there's that "thing" that is blocking them from being all that they can be.

I have a client (lets call her Mary), who came to me with a goal to manifest a soul-based relationship who's ready for love. She said she keeps picking men who are not available now. As I asked Mary some questions, she  started talking about her mother.

Mary won't let go of the negative memories of how her mother wasn't there for her growing up.  Mary said she can't forgive her cause she doesn't respect her. She said her mom was so clueless about how she was not there for her to soothe her emotions when she was being attacked by her brothers and her father. Her mother would look away. She never stepped in. She was a coward. Mary cried as she told me how painful it was. She cringes when she has to talk to her mother on the phone. She has anxiety. She doesn't feel safe opening up to her because she feels if she does, she'll be too much like her and her power will be taken away.

So you can see energetically, Mary still has the trauma from her childhood in her body. And that's one of the factors of what keeps her stuck, not being able to manifest a loving relationship now.

Mary feels she needs to punish her mother and not let her in because she doesn't deserve to have a close relationship with her daughter.

So here's what we tapped on with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique): Her intensity level was a 10

Karate Chop point

"Even though I'm still angry at mom cause she wasn't there for me, I love and accept myself anyway"

"Even though she was clueless as to what happened in that house and I can't forgive her for it, I appreciate all my feelings"

"Even though It doesn't feel safe to open up to her, she doesn't deserve it, I accept all parts of me"

Eyebrow- It's not safe to open up to her

Side of eye- I'm still angry"

Under Eye- She should of known what happened

Under nose- She looked away

Chin- I feel neglected

Collarbone- She was a coward

Side of ribs- Why wasn't she there for me?

Top of head- She should of been there for me

She took a deep breath and we checked her intensity number and it was still up there but it went down to a 8

We kept tapping with EFT on how angry she was that her mother didn't step up to the plate and stand up for Mary and with each round her intensity level went down.

The last tapping round ...

"Even though I have been holding this anger towards my mother for so my years, my mother "didn't know how" to be there for me and that's sad, I choose to find a way to be kind, compassionate and be free"

"Even though that was "her best" I appreciate I'm bringing healing to this issue

"Even though I am working on forgiving myself and her and I'm not there yet, I appreciate who I am.

Eyebrow- She did her best-(gulp)

side of eye- I understand that was her best

under eye- I am working on forgiving her and me

Under nose- I'm not there yet

Chin- I'm letting it be ok

Collarbone-I appreciate the journey I'm on

Side of ribs- I'm working on compassion for her and me

Top of head- I look forward to being comfortable in my own skin... I want to be free

I asked Mary to take a deep breath and she said she felt alot better. There are layers and layers to her emotions about how her mother acted when she was growing up. I told her to continue tapping everyday for 5 minutes on any leftover feelings and watch how they energetically release naturally.

Many people call or email telling me they have been doing EFT for a while and can’t seem to get to the root of the problem. When you tap on and say “Even though I’m depressed, I deeply and completely love and accept myself”, the statement is too general. You can start from the body and just notice where in your body do you feel this depression. So if it’s in your stomach, what emotion is stuck there? Is it anger, hurt, pain, rejection or just wanting to give up?

If so, make sure you use the intensity scale 0-10 (high intensity of emotion)

I had a client who came to me and she was depressed because she keeps picking men who are emotionally unavailable. The tapping took us to her father who was never there for her. He sometimes not only would emotionally abuse her but also hit her for no reason. She was still angry with him. And it was a '10' intensity and she felt it in her stomach.

So we worked on:

“ Even though I’m still angry at my father for not being there for me and I feel it in my stomach, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway”.

“ Even though I still feel the pain how he abused me…

“ Even though I remember his face so angry at me when I didn’t do anything wrong that time…

Eyebrow- I’m angry at the way he would yell at me

Side of Eye- I was so scared

Under Eye- his voice paralyzed me

Under Nose- there was nothing I could do

Chin-I was just a little girl

Collarbone- it wasn’t my fault

Under Arm- I’m angry that he took advantage of my vulnerability

Top of Head- His voice sent fear throughout my body

Eyebrow- I can still feel it now

Side of Eye- this remaining fear of back then

Under Eye-its in my body

Under Nose- I’m so afraid to tell him how I feel

Chin- he still scares me

Collarbone- I scare myself that I am still giving him this power

Under Arm- I’m still giving my power away wanting acceptance

Top of Head- I just want him to love me

We tapped on a few more rounds and the intensity went down when she started to get perspective that by holding on to still wanting her fathers love wasn’t going to give her peace. She realized that looking for love on the outside doesn’t make her feel better because most probably he will not change. So after we tapped a few more times the energy shifted to “I feel sad that he couldn’t give me what I needed and deserved”. And she moved it into “its time to tend to that little girl and love her completely”. She became the adult to take care of that little girl that had been abandoned all these years. The emotional stomach pain went away.

If you can relate or have a similar story and you want to clear up your stuck feelings in your childhood, email me at : annie@roadtoemotionalfreedom.com and I will help you. Also, get my free "How to do EFT guide" by signing up to the right.

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Love and Light

Annie

Are you feeling sluggish and just can't pop out of bed in the morning? Do you know stress and psychological traumas from the past and present can cause chronic diseases like, irritable bowel syndrome, stomach problems, chronic fatigue, pains, sleepless nights, hopelessness and on and on.

Your negative thinking compromises your immune system to such a degree that it weakens your organs and ages you prematurely. Stress wears down the brain, leading to cell atrophy and memory loss. Are you forgetting things and have a foggy brain?

f you are holding onto many things in the past and in the present that's weighing you down creating anxiety and depression, NOW is the time to dump your anger, resentment, blame and shame. Are you attached to your stuff and afraid to dump it? All of this can be addressed using Energy Psychology or Epigentic healing. Our genes dance with our awareness and how we are feeling. So if you are feeling depressed, you'll feel sluggish. When you exercise you'll feel good.

How do you get your mojo going? Take a small step toward a goal. Maybe it's deciding to listen to inspirational audios or meditate or exercise. When we mediate, we are giving space to the portion of our brains that produce happiness. Here are some positive thoughts to build your immune system. Do it 2x a day for month and notice how you feel.

Try this:

Inhaling: I breathe in this very moment

Exhaling: I breathe out everything that is not this moment

Inhaling: I am here in my body, in the present

Exhaling: I let go of the how's, the when's

Inhaling: I breathe in spaciousness and raising my vibration

Exhaling: I breathe out all worries and fears

Inhaling: I breathe in possibility and congruency

Exhaling: I breathe out others' expectations of me

Inhaling: I breathe in my dreams of what I see is possible

Exhaling: I breathe out all limitations and judgments

Here is another healing technique I use:

TAT (Tapas Acupressure Technique)

May all be healed

Annie

I am getting so excited to assist Carol Look (my mentor) EFT Master at Omega Institute up in Rhinbeck NY in a couple of weeks. I have been at many of her Abundance workshops. I can tell you it is totally worth all the money and time as you will walk out having a new perspective on your life and you just might be ready to make some lifestyle changes that will move you forward in the direction you want to go.
Here is the link to check it out. It's June 12-14. Attracting Abundance with EFT weekend with Carol Look

So if you are stuck and can't get out of the rut you are in, I do hope you can come and join me and Carol in this life changing event.

In deep appreciation for EFT and Gary Craig
Annie