What are you medicating?  What are you not addressing that is eating you up inside?  You didn’t even want the cookie but you needed that oral satisfaction for some kind of compensation… the pain from all the loss in your life…all the wasted time…all the unhealthy choices you made in your life.

Many of you are juggling work with taking care of a family, cooking, supporting a household and giving so much of your energy to other people and don’t feel appreciated. Is this burden of responsibility causing overwhelming anxiety for you?  Maybe you’re just bored and waiting for someone to come into your life so you don’t have to be alone anymore?  Does this resonate with you?

So to be alone with that cookie/cookies, doesn’t really satisfy “the lack of” space.

But what if… you allowed more space inside yourself to be filled up with deep appreciation for just the human being that you are? Appreciation that you have feelings and that you are doing the best you can for this moment given all your knowledge and experience in your life?  Hmmm…interesting how we never appreciate ourselves for the things we HAVE done that we’re proud of. We only look at what we failed at.

Now getting back the the symbol of the cookie…

Take a cookie in your hand and smell it and on a 0 (don’t want it)-10 (you really want the cookie) point scale measure the intensity

Now put the cookie down

Tap on the Karate Chop Point (side of hand)

“Even though I want this cookie and I’m not hungry but I’m bored, I love and accept myself anyway”
“Even though I don’t really want this cookie and I feel guilty that I’m about to eat it, I accept who I am and how I feel”
“Even though my truth in this moment is I don’t really care, I’m going to eat it anyway, and that’s ok with me, no one is watching, I accept and love myself anyway”

Tapping Points

Eyebrow- I feel guilty eating this cookie
Side of eye- I shouldn’t feel guilty
Under the eye- But I do
Under the nose- Do I really want this cookie? No one is watching
Chin-I feel anxious cause I know I will regret it
Collarbone- Don’t tell me not to eat this cookie
Top of head- I know I’m going to want another one

Close your eyes and take a D-e-e-p  B-r-e-a-t-h

Rate your intensity 0-10     Notice the shift

“Even though a part of me wants this cookie, I choose to make a healthier choice”
“Even though a part of me really wants this cookie, the truth is I’m not hungry”
“Even though I just want comfort right now, I choose to make a comfortable healthier choice”

Eyebrow- A part of me wants this cookie
Side of eye- It’s never satisfying enough
Under the eye- I’m not hungry
Under the nose- What if the truth is, that it’s not the cookie I want?
Chin- I don’t really want this cookie
Collarbone-I choose to release this pressure that I have to eat this cookie
Side of ribs- It feels soooo much better releasing the pressure
Top of Head- the truth is I don’t want this cookie and it feels good to get back on track!

Close your eyes and take a d-e-e-p b-r-e-a-t-h…

Measure again on intensity scale and notice if the numbers went down. Keep tapping if they are staggering until you make the right choice for you.

Carna Zacharias-Miller created a tapping meditation to send healing to the Gulf region. I wish to share this meditation with you. Carna suggests that you say the words out loud since invocations and healing blessings are more powerful this way. Begin by tapping on the Karate Chop spot for the “even though” statements, then tap through the points as you continue. You can listen to the podcast and download the meditation portion at www.eftfree.net/podcasts (scroll down).

A Tapping Process for Healing

Tap on the Karate Chop Point

Even though we feel shocked, sad and angry about the Oil Spill in the Gulf,
we choose to stay calm and balanced and loving anyway.

Even though this brings so much pain and hardship to many, we open the door to healing now.

Even though there is so much negative energy coming from this and spreading way beyond the region
we decide to send waves of light and love to the Gulf and into troubled hearts everywhere.

Tap through the points

We invoke the universal power of physical healing and spiritual wholeness now

We invoke the power of Mother Earth to clean and restore herself now

We invoke the courage and intelligence and willingness to work together in all people around the world

We open the door to profound change in the Gulf region and everywhere else now

Sending giant waves of love into the Gulf region
Sending giant waves of healing light into the Gulf region

Sending love and healing and courage to Louisiana
Sending love and healing and courage to Mississippi

Sending love and healing and courage Alabama
Sending love and healing and courage to Florida

Sending love and healing and courage all over the country
Sending love and healing and courage all over the world

Compassion, support and healing to the waters of the Gulf
Compassion, support and healing to the ecosystem of the Gulf

Compassion, support and healing to the marine life
Compassion, support and healing to the plants

Compassion, support and healing to the birds
Compassion, support and healing to all animals

Wrapping all the people in the Gulf area who lost so much, in golden light and love.
Sending them courage, perserverance, and spiritual guidance

May this be a lesson we learn well:
Renewing our stewardship of all life on this earth
Pledging to honor and protect all life on this earth

May the blessings be.

created by Carna Zacharias-Miller
www.EmotionalWellnessCoach.com

A final note: this process can be considered a form of surrogate tapping for the environment. At a time when we feel so helpless, it is something that we can do. At a time when we feel such anger and sadness about the tragedy, it is a way to transform that energy into healing care and positive vision. Surrogate tapping is powerful and our combined energies may make a difference. I would love to hear your experiences with this — comments are welcome.

Mary came to me in shock that her boyfriend of 10 years left her. She was devastated. She wanted to do EFT to get in touch with her overwhelming feelings that she’s alone now.

They were living together and she thought that after she finished Law School they would get married and everything was fine. They had some problems that she thought they could work out in therapy like “controlling issues”.

Suddenly, he decided he didn’t want to be in a relationship with her anymore and she just couldn’t believe it. She said “he acted as if nothing was wrong for such a long time”. “He must have been planning this for a while”. She said “I trusted him and didn’t think he was capable of doing this to me”.

He said all the right things to her, “I want to marry you someday and have a house together and a family” but his actions weren’t showing it. She just kept staying with him hoping that the “marriage thing” would happen eventually. He put her through law school and she’s grateful for that, but she was so angry that he never kept his word.

She doesn’t know what happened. How could a man that has been committed to you for so many years and without telling you why, needs to move out? Did he have another woman? Mary didn’t know. Mary was so in shock, depended and looked up to this man as if he was god and could do no wrong.

So here’s how we started out session… we did EFT and tapped on the shock and devastation of him leaving her and the pain was in her gut.

Her shock was way past 10 and crying

(Karate chop point)

The Set-Up Phrase

“Even though I am in shock and devastated that he left me after all these years and I feel it in my gut, I love and accept myself with compassion and kindness.”

“Even though the shock of him leaving me is overwhelming to me and it’s in my gut, I accept all my feelings and who I am.”

“Even though I am completely devastated that he lied all along and left me, I’m doing the best I can to cope given the knowledge I have right now.”

Reminder Phases

Eyebrow- This shocked and devastated feeling in my gut

Side of Eye- I still can’t believe he left me

Under the eye- I trusted him always

Under the Nose- I stuck by him so many years

Chin- I’m devastated

Collarbone- I should of listened to the signals

Side of ribs- I didn’t see them

Top of head- Even though I didn’t catch the signals and I’m in shock I love and accept myself anyway.

Mary said it felt good to bring these feelings to the surface. It brought up all kinds of feelings she didn’t even know existed. The tears rolling down her eyes. Still high numbers

We tapped on another aspect (issue) that came up.

“Even though I want to punish him and have him know he lost a good thing, I don’t want to let go of this anger, I love and accept myself anyway“.

“Even though I want to make him suffer because of the pain he put me through, I appreciate and honor all my feelings”.

“Even though I want him to know he lost a good thing when he hears I’m in a great relationship, I accept myself completely”.

Eyebrow- I want to punish him and suffer

Side of eye- He lost a good woman

Under the eye- I’m a great woman

Under the nose- Didn’t he see that?

Chin- How dare him not see I’m a great woman

Collarbone- I’m a great woman and I don’t want him to forget that!

She took a deep breath and I asked her to put her hand on her heart knowing that even though he left her, she is a great woman and will get back on her feet and come to peace about this one moment at a time.

Her numbers went way down. I asked her to place her hands over her gut and she said she felt much better. We continued tapping on “maybe I don’t need to make him suffer”"I’m done with suffering” and a light bulb went on in her head. She realized that she just needs to get on with her life and come to peace with this. Her numbers went all the way down.

I have a client (lets call her Mary), who came to me with a goal to manifest a soul-based relationship who’s ready for love. She said she keeps picking men who are not available now. As I asked Mary some questions, she  started talking about her mother.

Mary won’t let go of the negative memories of how her mother wasn’t there for her growing up.  Mary said she can’t forgive her cause she doesn’t respect her. She said her mom was so clueless about how she was not there for her to soothe her emotions when she was being attacked by her brothers and her father. Her mother would look away. She never stepped in. She was a coward. Mary cried as she told me how painful it was. She cringes when she has to talk to her mother on the phone. She has anxiety. She doesn’t feel safe opening up to her because she feels if she does, she’ll be too much like her and her power will be taken away.

So you can see energetically, Mary still has the trauma from her childhood in her body. And that’s one of the factors of what keeps her stuck, not being able to manifest a loving relationship now.

Mary feels she needs to punish her mother and not let her in because she doesn’t deserve to have a close relationship with her daughter.

So here’s what we tapped on with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique): Her intensity level was a 10

Karate Chop point

“Even though I’m still angry at mom cause she wasn’t there for me, I love and accept myself anyway”

“Even though she was clueless as to what happened in that house and I can’t forgive her for it, I appreciate all my feelings”

“Even though It doesn’t feel safe to open up to her, she doesn’t deserve it, I accept all parts of me”

Eyebrow- It’s not safe to open up to her

Side of eye- I’m still angry”

Under Eye- She should of known what happened

Under nose- She looked away

Chin- I feel neglected

Collarbone- She was a coward

Side of ribs- Why wasn’t she there for me?

Top of head- She should of been there for me

She took a deep breath and we checked her intensity number and it was still up there but it went down to a 8

We kept tapping with EFT on how angry she was that her mother didn’t step up to the plate and stand up for Mary and with each round her intensity level went down.

The last tapping round …

“Even though I have been holding this anger towards my mother for so my years, my mother “didn’t know how” to be there for me and that’s sad, I choose to find a way to be kind, compassionate and be free”

“Even though that was “her best” I appreciate I’m bringing healing to this issue

“Even though I am working on forgiving myself and her and I’m not there yet, I appreciate who I am.

Eyebrow- She did her best-(gulp)

side of eye- I understand that was her best

under eye- I am working on forgiving her and me

Under nose- I’m not there yet

Chin- I’m letting it be ok

Collarbone-I appreciate the journey I’m on

Side of ribs- I’m working on compassion for her and me

Top of head- I look forward to being comfortable in my own skin… I want to be free

I asked Mary to take a deep breath and she said she felt alot better. There are layers and layers to her emotions about how her mother acted when she was growing up. I told her to continue tapping everyday for 5 minutes on any leftover feelings and watch how they energetically release naturally.

If so, make sure you use the intensity scale 0-10 (high intensity of emotion)

I had a client who came to me and she was depressed because she keeps picking men who are emotionally unavailable. The tapping took us to her father who was never there for her. He sometimes not only would emotionally abuse her but also hit her for no reason. She was still angry with him. And it was a ‘10′ intensity and she felt it in her stomach.

So we worked on:

“ Even though I’m still angry at my father for not being there for me and I feel it in my stomach, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway”.

“ Even though I still feel the pain how he abused me…

“ Even though I remember his face so angry at me when I didn’t do anything wrong that time…

Eyebrow- I’m angry at the way he would yell at me

Side of Eye- I was so scared

Under Eye- his voice paralyzed me

Under Nose- there was nothing I could do

Chin-I was just a little girl

Collarbone- it wasn’t my fault

Under Arm- I’m angry that he took advantage of my vulnerability

Top of Head- His voice sent fear throughout my body

Eyebrow- I can still feel it now

Side of Eye- this remaining fear of back then

Under Eye-its in my body

Under Nose- I’m so afraid to tell him how I feel

Chin- he still scares me

Collarbone- I scare myself that I am still giving him this power

Under Arm- I’m still giving my power away wanting acceptance

Top of Head- I just want him to love me

We tapped on a few more rounds and the intensity went down when she started to get perspective that by holding on to still wanting her fathers love wasn’t going to give her peace. She realized that looking for love on the outside doesn’t make her feel better because most probably he will not change. So after we tapped a few more times the energy shifted to “I feel sad that he couldn’t give me what I needed and deserved”. And she moved it into “its time to tend to that little girl and love her completely”. She became the adult to take care of that little girl that had been abandoned all these years. The emotional stomach pain went away.

If you can relate or have a similar story and you want to clear up your stuck feelings in your childhood, email me at : annie@roadtoemotionalfreedom.com and I will help you. Also, get my free “How to do EFT guide” by signing up to the right.

To read another article on the importance of being specific

Love and Light

Annie

So, I asked her to start tapping and tell me the story of why she didn’t follow her heart. She said that she just had ok head shots of herself and brought them to the studio but was too chicken to show them because she didn’t like them and turned around and never got better head shots. Thus, she never followed through with her dream.

Her intensity level was 8 and she tapped on this:

“Even though I never got new head shots, I could have been a famous model, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway”.

“Even though I’m angry at myself, I should have given the studio those head shots anyway, I accept who I am and how I feel about it”.

As we tapped on many rounds of EFT on her anger, more issues came up for her. As time went on she started to feel much better about herself and more forgiving.

After the hour was over she came up to me and was so exited that she had a new technique to get her out of her depression in the morning, she wanted to really learn EFT.

Your negative thinking compromises your immune system to such a degree that it weakens your organs and ages you prematurely. Stress wears down the brain, leading to cell atrophy and memory loss. Are you forgetting things and have a foggy brain?

f you are holding onto many things in the past and in the present that’s weighing you down creating anxiety and depression, NOW is the time to dump your anger, resentment, blame and shame. Are you attached to your stuff and afraid to dump it? All of this can be addressed using Energy Psychology or Epigentic healing. Our genes dance with our awareness and how we are feeling. So if you are feeling depressed, you’ll feel sluggish. When you exercise you’ll feel good.

How do you get your mojo going? Take a small step toward a goal. Maybe it’s deciding to listen to inspirational audios or meditate or exercise. When we mediate, we are giving space to the portion of our brains that produce happiness. Here are some positive thoughts to build your immune system. Do it 2x a day for month and notice how you feel.

Try this:

Inhaling: I breathe in this very moment

Exhaling: I breathe out everything that is not this moment

Inhaling: I am here in my body, in the present

Exhaling: I let go of the how’s, the when’s

Inhaling: I breathe in spaciousness and raising my vibration

Exhaling: I breathe out all worries and fears

Inhaling: I breathe in possibility and congruency

Exhaling: I breathe out others’ expectations of me

Inhaling: I breathe in my dreams of what I see is possible

Exhaling: I breathe out all limitations and judgments

Here is another healing technique I use:

TAT (Tapas Acupressure Technique)

May all be healed

Annie

So if you are stuck and can’t get out of the rut you are in, I do hope you can come and join me and Carol in this life changing event.

In deep appreciation for EFT and Gary Craig
Annie

It took me a moment to check if I was ok as I started to feel my knee a little bruised. A man held out his hand to help me get up. For a split moment as I was on the floor and saw the old man I wanted to help him get up but I thought ” let me see if I am ok”. I was more traumatized by the incident than hurt. So I picked up my bags and as I walked to work, I tapped on my body using EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques).

Tapping at the Karate Chop Point, I said “Even though I feel trauma, didn’t know what happened to me and suddenly I was pushed on the floor , my knee has a little pain, I’m ok”. “Even though it happened so fast and I am in shock, I’m ok anyway.” “Even though I felt this heavy body on top of mine and didn’t know what hit me, thank god I’m ok and hope he’s ok.”

Tapping on:

Eyebrow: this trauma I feel in my body

Side of Eye: this heavy body fell on top of me

Under eye: I’m still in shock

Under Nose: I bruised my knee

Chin: I didn’t know what happen to me

Collarbone: it all happened so fast

Under Arm: Thank god it wasn’t worse

Top of Head: Thank god I’m ok and hope he’s ok

This is just a little excerpt of what I did to get out of the trauma I was feeling. My knee felt better as I got to work. If you ever find yourself in a sudden trauma learn EFT to acknowledge how you feel and you will be more in control in the moment of your body and your mind.

In deep appreciation for EFT and Gary Craig

Annie Siegel