It continues to amaze me how old negative memories from our childhood have such a tremendous impact on our psyche. It can stop and keep us stuck, frozen and paralyzed for a long time. People do function in their in their lives but there's that "thing" that is blocking them from being all that they can be.

I have a client (lets call her Mary), who came to me with a goal to manifest a soul-based relationship who's ready for love. She said she keeps picking men who are not available now. As I asked Mary some questions, she  started talking about her mother.

Mary won't let go of the negative memories of how her mother wasn't there for her growing up.  Mary said she can't forgive her cause she doesn't respect her. She said her mom was so clueless about how she was not there for her to soothe her emotions when she was being attacked by her brothers and her father. Her mother would look away. She never stepped in. She was a coward. Mary cried as she told me how painful it was. She cringes when she has to talk to her mother on the phone. She has anxiety. She doesn't feel safe opening up to her because she feels if she does, she'll be too much like her and her power will be taken away.

So you can see energetically, Mary still has the trauma from her childhood in her body. And that's one of the factors of what keeps her stuck, not being able to manifest a loving relationship now.

Mary feels she needs to punish her mother and not let her in because she doesn't deserve to have a close relationship with her daughter.

So here's what we tapped on with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique): Her intensity level was a 10

Karate Chop point

"Even though I'm still angry at mom cause she wasn't there for me, I love and accept myself anyway"

"Even though she was clueless as to what happened in that house and I can't forgive her for it, I appreciate all my feelings"

"Even though It doesn't feel safe to open up to her, she doesn't deserve it, I accept all parts of me"

Eyebrow- It's not safe to open up to her

Side of eye- I'm still angry"

Under Eye- She should of known what happened

Under nose- She looked away

Chin- I feel neglected

Collarbone- She was a coward

Side of ribs- Why wasn't she there for me?

Top of head- She should of been there for me

She took a deep breath and we checked her intensity number and it was still up there but it went down to a 8

We kept tapping with EFT on how angry she was that her mother didn't step up to the plate and stand up for Mary and with each round her intensity level went down.

The last tapping round ...

"Even though I have been holding this anger towards my mother for so my years, my mother "didn't know how" to be there for me and that's sad, I choose to find a way to be kind, compassionate and be free"

"Even though that was "her best" I appreciate I'm bringing healing to this issue

"Even though I am working on forgiving myself and her and I'm not there yet, I appreciate who I am.

Eyebrow- She did her best-(gulp)

side of eye- I understand that was her best

under eye- I am working on forgiving her and me

Under nose- I'm not there yet

Chin- I'm letting it be ok

Collarbone-I appreciate the journey I'm on

Side of ribs- I'm working on compassion for her and me

Top of head- I look forward to being comfortable in my own skin... I want to be free

I asked Mary to take a deep breath and she said she felt alot better. There are layers and layers to her emotions about how her mother acted when she was growing up. I told her to continue tapping everyday for 5 minutes on any leftover feelings and watch how they energetically release naturally.